When it comes to child abuse who is to blame. I used to blame Abusers 1, 2, and 3. I also used to blame the codependent who had the power to remove me as a minor and wouldn’t do it. I also used to blame the instigators and aggravators who sat and laughed while the abuse continued. And in some cases would instigate Abuser 1 to come back for seconds. After years of being out of the situation I had plenty of time to think about it. Who is really to blame? These are my thoughts.